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Taky se vám občas stane, že se chcete s někým dát do řeči, a tak si dáte kopec práce s překonáváním nervozity a studu a už vám vůbec nezbude kapacita na to, aby váš projev dával hlavu a patu?


Znám to. Na seminářích Zážitkové seznamky i na ulici se s tím setkávám dost často. Já si na rozdíl od většiny holek na ulici uvědomuju, kolik je za tím oslovení úsilí a že to neni legrace. Tak jsem malinko shovívavější a usmívám se, jak jen to jde, abych pomohla uvolnit to napětí, který tam zvlášť zpočátku prostě je…

Ale! Hodně žen netuší, jak je to těžké někoho oslovit a tak když za nimi přijdete s něčím trapným, nesouvislým, zadrhávajícím, tak vám to prostě dají “sežrat”. Určitě ne chtěně a určitě ne vědomě. Ale ta touha ega se nad někoho povýšit a poslat ho do háje je taaak velká! A ta představa, že pak kámoškám vyprávím, jak sem toho otrapu setřela, je taak lákavá!

Tak tady sdílím pár otázek, kterým se zkuste při oslovování raději vyvarovat ;-)

1/ Kde je tady pánské odděleni? Kde se prodává tahle zmrzlina/kabelka/věc...?

Zní to dobře, neinvazivně, neutrálně, ale: fakt chcete slyšet odpověď: “Támhle.” A co pak jako? Poděkovat a rozloučit se?

Navíc můžete dostat reakci, kterou fakt nechcete: “Vypadám jako prodavačka nebo co?” Taková sprcha doprovázená totálním zamračením nikoho moc v dalších pokusech nepodpoří..

RADA: Radši se neptejte a oslovte, to, co vás zaujalo. ( třeba “Jé, ta zmrzka vám jde skvěle k bundě/sukni, vlasům….” To jste si koupila, aby vám to ladilo?)


2/ Taky jste pořád na facebooku?

Tuhle otázku jsem dostala na semináři při aktivitě zaměřené na trénink oslovení a úplně ve mě hrklo. První reakce byla:”Co je ti po tom? A to si snad jako děláš srandu, že mi koukáš do mobilu?” Nakonec jsem to neventilovala na venek – to se u nás “slušnejch holek” může občas stát, že si myslíme, že jste úplně máklej, ale neřeknem to a pak se jen při nejbližší příležitosti vypaříme.

RADA: Respektujte naše soukromí.


3/ Kam jedete?
První reakce: “Co je vám do toho?”

Většinou oslovujeme až během dne než brzo ráno, a tak je větší pravděpodobnost, že jedeme domů. Já osobně fakt nerada říkám cizím lidem, kde bydlím. Pamatuju si, že jsem se cukala odpovídat i na prvním rande. Natož při oslovení! Je to zase zásah do soukromí. Na to bacha.

RADA: Radši se ptejte odkud jedete ;-).


4/ Nevypadám jako úchyl? Nemyslete si, že jsem vás přišel otravovat...

Takovou otázkou nebo větou ve mě rozhodne vyvoláte podezření a asociace, které nanejvýš pravděpodobně vyvolávat nechcete :-).

Možná se vám zdá, že tohle přece nikdo nemůže použít, ale zažila jsem to už několikrát. Děje se to hned po položení první otázky nebo oslovení, a to hlavně ve chvíli, kdy je dotyčný totálně vystresovaný ze situace. Strach z odmítnutí odpojuje logické myšlení a představa, že by bylo půl vteřinu trapné ticho ho děsí natolik, že raději bude říkat cokoli.

RADA: Vyhněte se slovům, která působí divně. Dýchejte a usmívejte se ;-).

 

5/ Nešla byste se mnou na kafe?

Za mě osobně je to super přímá otázka, ale určitě ne na začátek oslovení! My ženy fakt potřebujeme nějaký čas (pohybuje se od půl minuty do dvou), kdy se potřebujeme ujistit, že nám s vámi nehrozí nebezpečí. Přeci jen těch otrapů, úchylů, násilníků, zlodějů a tak podobně je dost – aspoň teda v médiích (a co se tam řekne, to se nám přehrává v hlavách – to dá přece rozum.)

Takže moje automatická reakce je “Ne”. Nebudu riskovat, že jseš magor, a když mi nedáš šanci se na tebe naladit, tak co mám dělat, že? ;-).

RADA: Začněte nějak zjemna a vydržte aspoň tu půl minutu (nebo lépe 2-3 slovní výměny) než se s něčím takovým vytasíte. Šance se tím zvýší několikanásobně ;-).

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Tak přeju hodně štěstí!

Pokud vás zajímá, jak být v oslovování (a nejen při něm) sami sebou, tak přijďte na náš listopadový seminář.

A kdyby vás zajímalo, jak vás vidí ostatní (získat fakt hodně komplexní zpětnou vazbu na svoje projevy a podporu pro rozvoj), tak zkuste naší víkendovku Jak mě vidí ostatní ;-).

Mirka

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